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1.2 – Why it matters

Tell me if this sounds familiar –

You’re naturally empathetic. You love people. You love listening to them and helping them with their problems. You’re phenomenal at it. The people you help thank you and love being in your presence. It feels great.

Until a point.

When it’s too much (or you hit a snag that triggers you), and you haven’t come home to yourself in a while, a different pattern emerges:

You start disliking people, being afraid of them, developing social anxiety. You numb. You lose yourself. You’re not sure where someone else ends and you begin. You find it hard to hold a boundary or to enter into healthy conflict. You ghost people. You don’t respond to texts in forever. You get easily irritated with the people closest to you. You grow resentful. You close up.

Without calling yourself home regularly, this is often how the story goes.

… but there’s a different way: Making calling yourself home a regular micro AND macro practice.

Here are a few points for you to muse upon before we get into the signs that it’s time to call yourself home. Let these slip through your consciousness for now.

  1. It’s easy to get stuck on others with our attention. Especially when we’ve been socialized for it.
  2. When we haven’t had enough time to be in our energy, the subtle cues that lead to intuition & wisdom can pass us by easily.
  3. If we want to offer a sustained healing presence in the world, offering ourselves that same healing presence isn’t a question of morality or deservedness, it’s just practical.
  4. To be able to answer the useful question: “is it mine or not” we need some practice in knowing what it feels like when it’s “mine”. Anchoring in ourselves is unavoidable.
  5. To be able to hold a neutral, loving space for someone else to access their wisdom & intuition (and not get jealous of them and leave the session cranky as hell), you need access to the same space.
  6. To release the people we support from invisible contracts and keep us feeling good in our supporter role, we need to be strong and robust in ourselves.

Ok, dearest one, now for the tell-tale signs it’s time to call yourself back home and use this skill 😘. (the HOW is coming, I promise)